New baby, Marriage Stress

Updated: Oct 2, 2020

As a former nanny with years of experience with children - I thought that parenting for me would be a breeze.

I could NOT have been more wrong.

Although I had all of my children sleeping through the night by 10 weeks of age, potty trained by the age of 2 and have never really had to deal with a lot of the issues I see my clients struggle with.

There have been a number of issues that have arisen which, as a nanny I didn't even know existed.

The BIGGEST hurdle by far has to be my marriage (Sorry Marc).

On reflection, when my son was about 4 years old, I think I had probably spent 3 of those years, either not talking to my husband or in a heated discussion about the children and how I am too 'soft' on them.

Sound familiar?

As a nanny, I had sole charge of 'my children'

I did not have to worry about paying bill’s, getting the groceries, laundry or walking the dogs.

On top of that at the end of the week I got paid – EASY!

By the time my husband walked in at night, grabed his coffee ‘that I have made’, takes off his socks ‘that I had washed’ (dropping them on the floor) ‘that I had cleaned,’ he would sit down and fall to asleep. I have tell you. Most of the time I was really quite jealous, and when in the kitchen (making dinner) I was known to suddenly start banging the pots as I unload the dishwasher in an effort to wake him up.

Not only because he has just assumed his day had ended and its only 3.30pm but because;

a) He fell to sleep so easily

b) When emptying his workbag, I would also disc