Real-Life Redirection Scripts (For When You’re Out of Patience)
“Toddler throws a toy, yells NO, and stares you down like you just ruined their career? 😅
Here’s your go-to guide to redirection scripts based on authoritative parenting—aka, that sweet spot between pushover and drill sergeant.
💬 Real scripts
🧠 Backed by child development
😌 Calm, confident parenting for the win
Using redirection technique with toddlers and children
1: Hitting/Biting/Pushing
“I won’t let you hit. You’re feeling mad—you can stomp or squeeze your hands instead.”
👉 Why it works: You stop the behavior and teach an alternative. Calm and firm = safety.
Situation 2: Throwing Food/Blocks/Shoes
“Food stays on the tray. If you’re done, you can say ‘All done!’”
“Blocks are for building. If you’re done playing gently, we’ll take a break.”
👉 You’re setting a clear boundary with a reason and a natural consequence.
Situation 3: Public Tantrum Meltdown
“You’re having a big feeling. I’m right here. When you’re ready, we’ll figure it out together.”
👉 No need to fix or rush. Connection before correction calms their brain.
Situation 4: Toy Tug-of-War with a Sibling
“You want a turn. Let’s try, ‘Can I have that when you’re done?’ We’ll set a timer.”
👉 Toddlers can’t share yet—but they can learn to wait (with help).
🧩 The Redirection Formula
State the limit (“I won’t let you…”)
Name the feeling or desire (“You’re feeling mad…”)
Offer the ‘yes’ or safe alternative
(“You can stomp” / “We’ll try again later”)
🎯 Final Thoughts
You don’t need a script for every situation. But having a few in your back pocket builds your confidence and your child’s brain.
Will your toddler still throw things? Probably.
Will you feel calmer and more in control? Definitely.
And when you’re staring down another toy tornado and need help figuring out what to say?
📩 Connect with me, Dawn. I’ll help you become the calm, confident guide your toddler actually listens to.
