The One Thing More Important Than Sleep Training

Sometimes, sleep isn’t the problem—disconnection is.

As a sleep coach, you might expect me to say the most important thing for your baby’s sleep is a routine, or the right wake windows, or sticking to a sleep plan like your life depends on it.

But honestly?
The one thing more important than sleep training... is connection.

Are you thriving?

Sleep is influenced by development, nutrition and circadian rhythms.

Before we ever change bedtime routines or tackle night wakings, we have to ask:

• Are you all thriving?

• Do you know what their tired cues really look like?

• Are you meeting all their other needs before supporting them to learn how to fall asleep independently?

Sleep is not just biological—it’s relational.

Yes, sleep is influenced by development, nutrition, and circadian rhythms. But it’s also deeply tied to how secure your baby or toddler feels in their environment. Sleep is also highly effected by development - drum roll - sleep regression (known as progression if you follow me)

You can have the perfect schedule—but if your little one feels unsettled, disconnected, or like bedtime is a battle, sleep will suffer and so can your mental health.

Attachment is the soil sleep grows in. Being confident is key to being able to make change in a positive manner.

What “connection before correction” really means:

It means:

• Pausing to hold your child before rushing to fix a cry.

• Taking time to learn their unique cues, not just copying a chart.

• Giving them a moment of eye contact, a cuddle, a laugh—even when you're exhausted.

• Remembering that sleep training is a tool, not a replacement for trust.

Sometimes what your child needs isn’t a sleep solution—it’s your presence.

You’re not failing if you haven’t "trained" your baby yet.

Maybe you’re co-sleeping because it’s what works right now.
Maybe you’ve read all the books but still feel unsure.
Maybe you’ve tried to “do it right” but your child is sensitive, strong-willed, or just doesn’t fit the mold.

Here’s what I want you to hear:

💬 You are not behind.
💬 You are not doing it wrong.
💬 You are parenting a real child, not a textbook.

And that’s exactly why your connection matters more than any plan ever could.

My job is to help your family sleep—without sacrificing connection.

When you're ready, we can work on strategies. We can create a rhythm.
But we’ll do it in a way that honours your child’s temperament and your parenting values.

Because at the end of the day, it’s not just about getting more sleep—
…it’s about building a relationship that lasts long after the night wakings are gone.

💖 You can have both: a sleeping child and a secure one.

Let’s start there.